It must be borne in mind that he stands guilty of extreme cruelty. As stated by Bergen, V. C., in the case of Totten v. Totten (N. J. Ch.) 60 A. 1035, 1096 (not reported [in State Report]), "Condonation is based on repentance. * * *" Nowhere in the testimony do we find a single word uttered by the defendant to indicate repentance for the cruelty which he had visited on the complainant. Why then should this aggrieved spouse have taken it upon herself to grant a forgiveness which was never asked for?