Opinion
November 17, 1975
In a proceeding by the petitioner mother inter alia for an award of exclusive custody of her infant daughter and, in effect, to modify the provisions of a separation agreement which conferred joint custody, in which the defendant cross-moved for similar relief, petitioner appeals from a judgment of the Supreme Court, Nassau County, entered January 27, 1975, which, after a nonjury trial, inter alia (1) dismissed her petition, (2) granted defendant's cross motion and (3) modified the separation agreement accordingly. Judgment affirmed, with costs. We agree with the trial court's conclusion that the best interests of the 15-year-old child involved in this case will be served by giving her father full custody. This conclusion is supported by many factors, including the stable and harmonious family life which the child enjoys with her father, the prior decisions of each of her three brothers while infants (now all adults and, apparently, well-adjusted) to live with their father; the court-ordered psychiatric report which concluded, after examination of the several parties, including the daughter, that "there is no question that Celia's [the daughter's] interests would be best served if she were to remain with the [father]"; the trial court's own observation of the parties; and, finally, the clear preference of the child to live with the father. We recognize that this last factor is not determinative (see Dintruff v McGreevy, 34 N.Y.2d 887), but it obviously should be considered when, as here, the child is not of tender years. The Dintruff case (supra) is clearly distinguishable from this one not simply because there the children were only 13 and 8 years of age, but because there the award of custody to the father ended eight years of custody with the mother. The court, in Dintruff, warned that subjective changes in the children or objective changes in the family relationships should not be followed automatically by changes in custody, because "The rearing of a child requires greater stability than a roller-coaster treatment of custody" (supra, p 888). In contrast, here, the child's custody was being exchanged every three months. We feel the present award, which also provides liberal visitation rights for the mother, will now supply rather than hinder the required stability. Hopkins, Acting P.J., Christ and Munder, JJ., concur; Martuscello, J., dissents and votes to modify the judgment by denying both the petition and the cross motion, with the following memorandum, in which Cohalan, J., concurs: The joint custody arrangement, as provided for in the separation agreement, should not be disturbed. The behavior and attitudes of the parties, much of which is to be deplored, have not been of such nature as to constitute a forfeiture by either parent of the agreed-upon custody arrangements as set forth in the separation agreement. The expressed choice of the then 13 1/2-year-old child would be more significant if it were necessary to determine whether she must remain with one parent or the other. That is not the issue. The objective circumstances in this case have made peculiarly fitting the alternation of custody in three-month periods; it had worked well for more than 10 years. The subjective factors, important as they are, have caused no emotional damage to the child, who is indeed fortunate to be the recipient of loving care from her parents and stepparents. Matters which loom large in the mind of a 13-year-old girl, and which may have played an important part in her stated choice of the parent with whom she desires to live, may seem less important as she matures, and "The subjective changes in the children or the objective changes in the family relationships should not be followed automatically by changes in custody" (Dintruff v McGreevy, 34 N.Y.2d 887, 888). The prior decisions of the three sons to live with their father are not relevant except that such decisions, per se, may have had a "me too" effect upon this young girl, who has a great deal of respect for her brothers and a loving relationship with them. The record clearly shows that the mother's relations with her only daughter and youngest child are far different from her relations with her sons. The mother has indeed been a loving parent to her daughter. The resentments expressed by the latter are not atypical of the growing pains of a young teenage girl. They clearly are within the realm of normality. It is to be noted that the child is scheduled to attend boarding school in the fall of 1975. This fact would, in any event, require modification of the alternate custody periods, but this should be done in the spirit of equal custody rights when she is not at school.